Sunday, June 6, 2010

Tireegal, Tireegal, where have you been?

It's been a humdrum kind of time - which when you have been on the roller-coaster I have recently is sort of a welcome lull.
So far things are all quiet on the uterine front. ( Thank you, thank you Higher Powers, Goddesses and Deities!) I had to have a bit of a talk to my ob practice ( namely the doctor in charge) after my little drama in L and D. No-one followed up on me after my level two ultra-sound and I had to go in after our weekend away and demand some answers - or at least some acknowledgment that there might be a problem, Huston. The midwife didn't bother to call me; I got to call and talk to her nurse just before we went on our weekend to Michigan, who told me she thought I should just take it easy and come back in a month. The Monday after I got back I was so worried and freaked out and feeling completely neglected and invisible that I called them up and told them the problem. I got to talk to the head OBs nurse and she told me to come in right away, which I did. I then proceeded to tell her that I had not gotten the follow up or advice I needed, that it took me forever to get pregnant and had taken a huge emotional, psychological and financial toll on me, and please could I get some answers? She was sympathetic and proactive and I did finally get to see the doctor, who gave me an apology of sorts for not following up with me after my fun bleeding episode. He examined me - declared me okay for now, and promised to do more follow up - more ultra-sound and more monitoring of the situation. He told me I will be having a c-section almost for sure and I can see the midwives but I have to see him. At this point I am kind of pissed at the midwives. I have barely seen them and each time has been rushed. And the one who sent me to L and D didn't even bother to call and see how I was. Maybe that's just their protocol - maybe I was asking for too much, but I am still kind of pissed. So I have a midwife appointment on Thursday which I will probably go to so I can get the wholistic treatment and then after my second level two ultrasound on Monday 14th ( where we hope to find out the sex of the baby) I go back to see the doc again. When I saw him two weeks ago at 17 weeks I was measuring 24 weeks because of my big ass fibroid. I am of the conviction that I should not be making any plans after the beginning of September - just in case. He told me of the risks and signs of pre-term labor - which I will be prone to - and sent me on my merry way.

In other news: Susan and I have been busy planning our wedding which is July 17th at our very crunchy, funky, liberal UCC church. It is going to be a simple affair ( I know, that's what they all say) and the most planning that is going into it is the actual service itself - as Susan is studying to be a minister she has a good handle on it - and picking the music, readings, etc etc. Neither of us knows what we are going to wear. No it won't be white dresses either. We know what we will be serving ( tea with sandwiches, scones and cookies - prepared by S, my nieces and I ) and a wedding cake made by my baking aficionado niece C. The biggest issues are: how will we keep it all cool with only one fridge at the church (answer; coolers) how will people survive in the un -airconditioned sanctuary ( answer: colorful paper fans provided by us and a liberal supply of water) and yes, what will we wear? ( answer: we dont' know!) We have some ideas for rings: did you know that if you google "rings" you get one price and if you google "wedding rings' you get another one about 5 x higher? We are going to get silver rings probably with a celtic design. Not posh or expensive. We are not sure what to have engraved inside. As my fingers are beginning to swell I am a bit concerned about what size to get - esp as at some point the ring will be too big for me! We still have to write our vows. So far 61 people say they are coming out of a possible 150 and 50 have not responded. We decided on the date at the last minute and lots of people are going out of town. I am really excited to be getting married after almost twelve years and it's such fun planning it with S. Yes, I know that's a cliche! And no, it's not legal either. But we aren't letting that stop us. Maybe we will run off to Iowa or DC one of these days to get a piece of paper recognized in about 6 or 7 states? Who knows?

In Blogland: I have been reading all of you on my blogroll - but I tend to do it late at night on the couch with my I-phone. Hence my pitiful lack of commenting. I am glad that you are all still there -and to those of my sisters in the muddy TTC trenches of this journey, I hold my breath as I read your posts and pray you don't disappear off the blogosphere, even though you are discouraged and spent and I have no right to make such demands on you. I value you so much and I wish that we could sit around with cups of tea and other fun beverages and share in a big fun messy comfortable circle of friends.

In animal news: The kitties still don't have homes and after conferring with the local stray / feral cat people we decided to let them all out again. They love their territory and apparently it's rarely successful re-locating cats like these who are so rooted to their place. We are still hoping to find indoor / outdoor homes for the two lovers Blackie and Sidekick - who still come in and out, and Mama Cass who makes an appearance when she feels like it. We think Twinkletoes would be a great pet and of course Georgia Peach -who is so so shy you can't really get close. But others don't think so and the shelters are over-run with cats and dogs that are victims of foreclosures. The cat shelter told us the cats would do really badly in a shelter and the most humane thing would be to leave them where they are. We were so close to finding a home for Blackie and Sidekick but the couple who came to see them felt that they hadn't "bonded with them" enough in their short visit. I was heartbroken. We still feed the cats and provide them with shelter and water. We still say hi to them when they are sunning themselves in the garden. We are still their guardians. And the dogs; well they are 13 and a half and slowing down a lot. Both of them have had upset stomachs for the few weeks or so and the usual medicine is not helping. I am taking them to the vets for their yearly shots next weekend and hoping to get some ideas for healing their tummies. They have been doing so well on a special and expensive diet for about a year, but currently Ollie is refusing food a lot and is favoring chicken and rice on his own schedule.

Okay, this is getting long, boring and rambly...

Good-night all,


Illanare said...

Lovely to hear from you and I am so glad that things are good!

cindyhoo2 said...

I am so happy for the update!

In pg news: yay that all is well but your ob/ midwife practice is terrible with compassionate care! I don't think you are asking too much. Our ob actually calls us on the phone when we have an issue. We love him and I wish you could find someone who offers that same sort of humanity.

I am betting on a boy for you but I can't say why. I will be excited to find out the answer soon.

Your wedding sounds exciting. No cliches at all: just lovely!

I am sorry the kitties have been so hard to place. Your solution sounds like the best under the circumstances. And your poor aging pups: it always breaks my heart to see mine begin to slow with age.

Schroedinger said...

Thanks for the update!
Spoeedy & I are having our wedding celebration (since we got legally hitched last year) the same date!
I have not blogged about it because it is VERY SMALL and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings in case they are not invited and feel that they should have been.

Anyway, I am glad to hear all is well and hope your kitties get what they need. It sounds like you will do everything in your power to make that happen...

I second that you OB sounds like kind of a b00b. I hope you can find someone more responsive and who can give you the care you deserve.

anofferingoflove said...

hmm..i would be frustrated with the midwives too. good for you for speaking up and demanding better! i am EXCITED to hear about your next ultrasound!!! :D

congrats on the upcoming nuptials, sounds like it is going to be a lovely event!

Kansas said...

Glad to hear things are going well:) It's not too late to switch practices if you don't like the care you're receiving at your OBGYN/midwives. My dr. is overly conservative when it comes to appointments and ultrasounds, but then, so I am, so our personalities match, which I'm thankful for:)
The wedding sounds awesome! Have fun planning:)

Rachel said...

So glad to hear all is well, I was getting concerned! Email or FB me on the interview tips, I'll take all the help I can get!

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad you'reb back, I was getting worried!
RE: the interviewing tips, email or FB me, I would love all the help I can get!!!

rebecca said...

So good to hear from you with an update!!! Glad to hear you got the attention you deserve & need from the OB, way to advocate for yourself!
The wedding sounds wonderful, it will be here before you guys know it, hope it is a perfect day for you both filled with people you love & memories to cherish:)

CJ said...

We get to SCHEDULE our gender scan the day you GET yours! I'm all kinds of jealous! I tend to be a bull in the China shop when people ignore me. I think it comes from being Emma's mom! Glad you got some attention, at last!

Kate said...

So sorry I missed sending support when you needed it most-- so scary about the bleeding and so very very glad you and your little one are ok.

I think sometimes the medical profession needs to be reminded that we are PEOPLE and i am sorry that you had to fight so hard for information that should have been (obviously) given to you.

Love the wedding planning (sounds great! and congratulations!!!!)

and please just take good care of yourself. It is so hard to ask for what you need, and trusting your instincts.

thinking of you,

E. Phantzi said...

I'm in the same boat in terms of the commenting thing - reading on an iTouch makes typing anything cumbersome! But on my laptop now :-)

Glad that your OB was more responsive when you pressed the issue but how disappointing not to have the kind of follow-up that you needed.

Congratulations on the upcoming nuptials! How very very exciting!

Hope that the rest of the pregnancy will be calm and easy as possible - wishing for no more drama for you! :-)

(project progeny)

tbean said...

Love the update and can't wait to hear the news from the big scan!

Anonymous said...

I somehow missed this update before. But I'm glad everything is in a nice, safe lull. The wedding plans sound exciting!